Diario de Alnona, 20 may. 19

sometimes we have to take a step back to move two steps forward,when we fail it's a step closer to success,we can learn from our mistakes,and take it as a lesson learned, when something is to hard and you give up that's when we really fail keep moving forward and stay positive 💯 

Don't beat yourself up, tomorrow is a new day! You can do it. 

A you got this. Don’t bear yourself up like Kenny says. I agree. You recognize what’s going on and your going back to your routine. That’s HUGE! Consistency is key ya ? A few days off but back at it. Love your face ! 😍. We’re here for you 

I remember in the beginning it was also difficult for me and sometimes I would tell my husband something and he would respond something along the lines of “quit”. He felt I was complaining or I couldn’t do it, I don’t know, what I do know is that I no longer rely on him supporting my journey I rely on FatSecret. 

I think they see it’s a lot of work and effort and to make our life easier they tell us to quit they will still love us, but will we love ourselves? Plus you know the health issue thing as well (I guess that’s also important ) 

Good for you, focus your energy in being a better you rather th an destructive behavior. You are worth it, and only you can make it happen.  

He will adjust. My partner has really supported my weight loss and diet changes, but he can be stubborn as a mule when it comes to other things. By other things, I mean anything that isn't diet and exercise lol. It is a challenge some times to put your own needs first or to develop autonomy. He loves you, he will definitely come around...it just may take a little time. Weight loss requires patience, and so do people.  

I think men by nature, or maybe by nurture, tend to be selfish. I think you are doing the right thing by taking care of yourself. He will survive. 

Whenever I say “I can’t” my coach would reply “not with that attitude!” You can do this and you have our support! 

A lot of men don't want us to get tired doing anything that isn't focused on them. I too allowed my negative husband to intimidate me, and stopped doing many things because of what he said. I missed out on much. Then at 118 he said I was fat. At 112 he said I was letting myself go and my stomach was still fat, and I need to do sit ups. I have a bad back, I can't. At 104, he said I am skinny on top, but still have a stomach. Yeah, he right. But I'm 77, and doing what I can. Sometimes he's nice, sometimes not.  

@Snowwhite...your first statement is so true sometimes. I have been vocal about how I am a bit conservative about posting photos on FS but my bf is 2-3 more notches more conservative when it comes to things like that. I took my niece shopping this past weekend - was really excited about the clothes I can now fit without having a pregnancy belly - I got a few casual dresses (tennis dress, overall denim dress) and oh my, did I get an ear full. Apparently a tennis dress is the same as a 25 year old club dress and was lectured how everything should be at or below the knees. Am I returning my new clothes? No. Will I be wearing them in the near future? Absolutely! Will he pout? Probably. Do I care? No. I am sure we will have this conversation a few more times throughout the summer. Eventually, he won't be bothered by it. When you change, sometimes that can be scary but in time, they will realize the fear is unfounded.  

Court your comments reminded me of the time Cutty criticized a pair of sandals I bought as 'hooker shoes'. These were spring steps with a one inch heel not F'me pumps! Jealousy? Insecurity? or just trying to adjust to seeing us in a new light all of our SO's have something going on in their reactions. They just need time to adjust. WE focus on it 24/7 ... they may look at us 20 seconds and go 'hmm... something's different' and ANY comment could be perceived as critical or controlling. 

Bella - that is also true! Our own perception and hypersensitivities get in the way for sure. I try to keep in the back of my mind that my SO is similar to my father. They both have this thing where they feel the need to protect - and if anything should go wrong to a person they are supposed to protect - they feel that they would have failed. At 33 yo - my Dad will still lecture me if he hears I went to the gas station by myself after dark o'clock. They take it as a very serious duty. lol. But I've made it 31 years prior to meeting my SO in one piece, sometimes wish he would understand that "I've got this". lol 

LOL Court - forget it! Not gonna happen. Blondie is 43, has been married 22 years and has two kids and if she's planning to go out of town (like this week) I'm like 'do you have your phone, where are you staying, do you have cash, is there a group...' And she's not even my birth child. I'm sure that's why I was never able to give birth to my own. I'd make helicopter Mom's look disinterested. 

Hahaha - truest statement ever. It definitely cannot be turned off. There are 8 children between my two sisters. One younger, one older. My SO has 1. I have none. There is a possibility that I may not be able to have any. And I am often seen as over-protective. My SO laughs and jokingly calls me a hypocrite. Some times I think for those of us who haven't or may not be able to have children is because our hearts are too big so our calling is supposed to be directed universally.  

Your journey is about you, not him! 

GET. IT. GIRL. 

The Sun will shine again! :) 

I am reading our comments and getting a little concerned. A stray comment here or there from our significant other that is selfish or out of line maybe understandable, but not if there is a pattern. If your SO is calling you fat or constantly criticizing your actions or your appearance, that is quite honestly, emotional abuse. I know. I put up with is for 25 years. I finally separated in 2014 and divorced in 2015. We should never be made to feel bad about ourselves by another person or feel like we have to "walk on eggshells" to avoid doing or saying something that might upset the other person. Just my two cents. 

Thank you all so much for the support. I truly could not do this without you all😘😘🙏🙏😘😘