Diario de Debbie Cousins, 14 may. 24

Prayers for all in your family. Times like these are hard and happen often unfortunately. Great determination and effort with the walking and drinking enough water.  

Yikes. I sent a prayer. I can't imagine how you cope with this.  

First Debbie I'm sorry that you had such an awful experience I hope that you're coping okay. Know this happens to All families okay... there's nothing that happened that doesn't happen to every family at some point mental health is not easy and is not to be taken lightly. I'm a big proponent that we need to remove the shame from mental health services we would never shame someone for getting help for diabetes or issues with their thyroid we should never shame someone for needing a little extra help with depression or anxiety. If your granddaughter needs additional help with some mental health concerns there should be no stigma attached to that and our society has made it very difficult to come out and make it known to others without a lot of stress and concern for one social standing and this makes it difficult to make it known to others even one's own family. I believe that's why they were having such difficulties as a community addressing this complex issue. As for your husband's behavior it's not easy when you come to bear with an issue like this particularly when it's straight from sleep everyone deals with stressors differently not that I defend his behavior I was not there. When dealing with fear for a loved one it's hard to know what you might do in that situation. For example when dealing with a child who tries to grab a hot pan of the stovetop one might smack the child's hand away from the stove instead of addressing the situation calmly like you would normally in the panic of the moment it doesn't mean you're an aggressive person it means that you've panicked in that high stress situation and not made the best choice I believe that this is a similar situation. You of course would know better as you were there. how is your granddaughter doing now? I hope the situation that caused the upset has been resolved and the family is much more at peace. It is my hope that you and your family are able to get to a much more calm and happy place here in the near future. Hugs 🤗💖 

Great job ! 

Yikes, Hang in there!!! it can be tough! 

prayers  

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm sure you know that suicide threats must be taken seriously and see to it that your granddaughter gets counseling. Prayers for your family. And hugs for you! 

Thank you, everyone, for your kind concern. Things are a little more calm now. This morning, though, my grand daughter flatly refused to go to school! A screaming match ensued. My daughter got so angry that she had to lock herself in her room to keep from seriously hurting my granddaughter. We’re all at wits end. I told my granddaughter yesterday to go to talk to the school counselor. She is supposed to compile a list of resources that accept Medicaid, and will give it to her 2m0. Sigh. 😞 

Debbie, I don't know which how much you wish to share about your granddaughters problems that she is currently experiencing, but there are two main methods you can go by from here with the school situation. Because she's going to back you into a corner legally speaking by not going; one is depending on the reason for not wanting to go you can work with the school and explain to them you need a homebound teacher help her with her school studies during this tremensuous time to keep her on track while she works and navigates these emotional issues so that she does not lose grade point average and can still access school programs (particularly with virtual studies she can keep up with teachers and other things through video programs as well as a teacher can come to your house multiple times a week these programs have always been in place and can be accessed through the appropriate school-based programs if you go through the appropriate channels). Option 2: If you do not feel that this is a good fit you can go a more Stern approach and get the police involved and they will help you to get her to school they will come to your home pick her up and take her to school and yes I know this is a thing because I had friends that were picked up by the police and taken to school for truancy issues. This is a more invasive and a less friendly way to get the child to school it depends on what you believe is the more appropriate method and what the original problem that is keeping her from going to school. If it's bullying or emotional disturbances it could be that it would be better for her to stay at home and work through these issues anymore calm and loving environment if this is a defiant behavior it may be better to go with the other method.d.straight method but this is something that you and your family will have to decide together. 

More of a scared straight method but you'll have to decide that as a family and on your own*.